The Cycles of Endings and Beginnings
We find ourselves collectively in deeper cycles of endings. Relationships are being challenged and tested, and the previous notions of commitment are evolving. We are entering a time of self-realization and evolution, where clarity is guiding us toward new directions. No longer are we bound by the old belief that we must stay connected until physical death parts us. But what about emotional and spiritual death? These experiences and expressions of our soul and body are just as real as a physical separation from people and this planet. Let’s explore this further.
In our interactions with others, reciprocity is essential. This is a foundational law of the Universe that we experience daily, whether we are aware of it or not. We all seek connection and balance in all things—every animal, plant, insect, and human alike. Our parents and grandparents were often masters at suppressing their needs, concerns, and desires, locking them behind an internal door for various reasons—mostly because they felt powerless to change their circumstances or lacked the willpower to create a life that felt honest and inspiring. Those days of dense living were marked by obligation, struggle, and acceptance of whatever was in front of them. However, there were also great teachers like Thomas Edison, Henry Ford, and Napoleon Hill, who pursued their desires and opened the door for others to see that we live in a world rich with possibilities. Yet, to access those possibilities, you must connect with your true desires, no matter the cost. Throughout history, humans have created amazing material objects, expressions, and new ways of being from nothing.
In today's world, we have an increased consciousness that allows us to connect more easily with ourselves and the energies of creation, encouraging exploration and curiosity as we call forth experiences we desire. I often say that we are part of the creation story and creators within our own stories. We contribute to this process of life—whether you call it God, the Universe, Source—the master template of expansion, evolution, and frequency.
When it comes to intimate relationships, we are realizing that we no longer want to remain stagnant or trapped in old patterns. The question often arises, "Is this it?" If one partner refuses to grow and push themselves out of their comfort zone, the relationship is dying. In a relationship, there are three energy sources: each individual’s energy and the collective energy created by the time, nourishment, care, love, intention, and attention given to the relationship, which becomes its living container. When one person stops contributing and instead takes, leans on, or asks the other to maintain the status quo, imbalances begin to form. The relationship container starts to break, and both people may feel like they’re drowning in uncertainty, often resorting to blame.
A healthy relationship moves, finds flow, and evolves, holding space for both individual partners and their connection. A healthy partner is someone who knows themselves—who is free from dependency on the other and who values companionship and connection. Creating a relationship with devotion, honesty, safety, authenticity, and compassion is key.
If you find yourself outgrowing your relationship and witnessing the breaking of the container, ask yourself these questions:
Am I able to be my authentic self in this connection?
Are we both willing to create a new connection and grow together?
Does this relationship cause one of us to suffer daily?
How does this relationship feel in my body and nervous system? Am I constantly activated and in a state of fight or shutdown?
By asking yourself these questions and spending time journaling, you will uncover your patterns and behaviors within the relationship. This clarity will help you determine the next steps—whether you can heal within this connection with your partner, or if they have simply been a teacher, showing you your patterns and it’s time to move on. You will be able to create a space for yourself to consciously choose your next steps.
Take some deep breaths and connect with how your body feels. I’m always here to assist you and help you navigate your behaviors and choices. Reach out to schedule a coaching session if you feel you need support.
